I would never have thought that working can make people change (at times quite drastically). I mean, yes, I see the world differently (sometimes good and sometimes bad). I guess one can be even more mature now that we are in this corporate world. Being stronger and being able to put our foot down when we say yes or no.
Well, after reading through an article in the Sunday Times, I somehow felt a bit sad, angry and worried all at the same time.
In the article, the author mentioned that her head many times said "No" to her friend and her heart would say "Yes". I've been in that situation before and I hated it. Only once or twice that I said "No" to my friends and family. Of course they were hurt by my rejection, causing me to feel bad. I felt so sad and angry with myself. Why did I say no? I've made a promise to myself, not to let people down, especially to my family and friends. Would need to make more effort in spending time with them. Life is short and I don't want to waste my time staring at the computer or being away from home.
Of course I've thought about where I want to be by the time I'm 30. Do I want a luxurious life with a big house and a big car? Or just simple yet satisfying? I want both! Why not? I've seen people have both luxuries of life! Being rich yet so down to earth? Definitely for me! And I know a few who are like that and I admire them dearly. So I look up to them and turn to them for advise whenever I need it the most.
Loving my job? Of course! Hating the long hours? I have to confess that I do hate it at times (Sorry, didn't mean to use the word hate). But seriously, does long hours prove productivity? I just feel that there shouldn't be any obligation for you to stay so late till wee hours of the night. If your work is done for the day, then it's done? Why should we wait around for other people to give us work to do at the expense of our time? Again I say, life is too short. You never know what's going to happen the next day.
Having a job you love is VERY satisfying...definitely is! But at the same time, would need to know your priority. In anything and everything we do, we need to know our priority. Some may love what they see in the mirror, some may not. I'd love to see myself in the mirror every morning not having a large pimple on my face. That shows I'm never in stress, which I did mention to a few people before. In all my experience working, may it be part-time or full-time, I've never experienced any stress at work (therefore, flawless complexion!). But it's not the work that's causing me stress, it's the environment and certain people (don't get the wrong idea, I'm not pointing fingers).
It saddens me that certain things and occasions had to be sacrificed in order to please others. For me, I've always put my family and friends first. Work is definitely second. Till now, I've managed to make sure it stays this way and I hope I will maintain it. Like I said, I do love my job. But I will still make sure I will never ever lose contact with any of my loved ones. Too bad if working hours may be till late at night, but I can still manage to meet up with my family and friends after work. That's why I get annoyed when others get things done at the very last minute, causing the rest to fall behind as well.
But I have to say, I really don't get how someone can be so selfish. After reading the article again, it's pretty selfish of the author to think that work is everything. And the part about her muttering to her mother? How rude is that? It's bad enough you spend most of your time at work, in the office or where ever you may be, but not being able to spend some time listening to your mother ranting about her favourite TV show? Now that truly saddens me. We would be no where without our mothers.
I guess you would need to read the whole article to understand what I'm babbling about. It's just that our boss decided to let us all in the the office to have a read at it and wanted us to provide feedback. I think I have been a bit too forward in my comments. Oh well, don't really care no more. It's just how I feel bout things.
